how to recover from a breakup
February 20, 2024

How to Recover from a Breakup: The Courage to Walk Away

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The process of breaking up and being left to deal with the aftermath can take a toll on you. Especially if the breakup involved infidelity, broken trust, and financial betrayal. But expert psychotherapist and relationship specialist Lisa Brateman, LCSW, has created a guided workbook on how to recover from a breakup. Through journaling prompts and helpful exercises, The Courage to Walk Away will help to heal and empower you for the future.

If you want to learn what comes next after infidelity and heartbreak, we have a sneak peek into the workbook!

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How to Recover from a Breakup

There is life after betrayal.

If you are dealing with the aftermath of a painful and life-altering breakup—made worse by the emotional turmoil when trust has been breached and vows have been broken—you are not alone. You may already know that nearly 50 percent of all marriages in the US end in separation or divorce. Not all are caused by infidelity, of course, but that’s up there as one of the primary causes (or perhaps as the nail in the coffin of unhappiness). The figures are sobering. An estimated 41 percent of first marriages, 60 percent of second marriages, and 73 percent of third marriages in the US end in divorce. In fact, there is a divorce in this country every forty-two seconds—the time it likely took you to read this paragraph! And these statistics don’t include all the couples living together without being married.

Yet there is no reason for you to suffer when you can take steps toward a healing that you might not yet think to be possible.

The Fear of Loneliness

There is, of course, a vast difference between being alone (which can be emotionally satisfying) and being lonely (which is not). Some of the loneliest people I’ve ever met are couples who no longer feel comfortable with any kind of intimate behavior, yet they don’t know what to do about it. Your partner can be sitting next to you on the sofa, yet there is nothing about their presence that makes you feel cherished or supported. If this is the case, it can be a relief when the relationship ends.

There can also be hidden triggers for loneliness after a relationship ends. Seeing the closet and dresser drawers and garage empty can give you a huge jolt that leaves you feeling sad and lonely. Unexpected triggers can also sneak up on you.

There are many things to miss when a relationship ends, and they can make you feel lonely. But the more you do things on your own, the less jarring it will feel over time.

Fighting the Loneliness

If you’re feeling lonely, try to take steps to make yourself feel better. The longer you avoid doing anything proactive, the longer it can take to not feel so alone. Loneliness should not be discounted—it’s practically an epidemic in this country, and it can have serious health effects. In fact, in 2023 the National Institute on Aging released a study showing that the health risks of being isolated for a lengthy period of time are equivalent to smoking fifteen cigarettes a day.

To start, do something for yourself. Tell yourself “I deserve this”—because you do! And sometimes the best thing is to do something for someone else. Redirecting your attention to something out of your range of experience—whether it’s volunteering at an animal shelter or a hospital, or any kind of volunteering that brings you into contact with other people—will feel good. And don’t forget to set up regular check-ins with your friends.


If you are interested in the prompts and exercises in this chapter, don’t forget to pick up your copy of The Courage to Walk Away, which is out now!

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February 13, 2024

Books to Add to Your TBR for this Black History Month

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February is Black History Month! Celebrate by reading from this list of books by incredible Black authors. From cookbooks to poetry to mythology to self-help, there’s something for everyone to enjoy. Make sure to add these to your TBR shelf to read during Black History Month and beyond!


Books to Read for Black History Month

Own Your Greatness and Your Unstoppable Greatness

Impostor Syndrome Book.        Your Unstoppable Greatness

If you want to tackle that inner voice that tells you that you can’t do something or that you’re not good enough, then you have to check out Own Your Greatness and Your Stoppable Greatness! These two guided workbooks will give you the tools you need to conquer self-doubt, realize your true worth, and enjoy your success. Make sure to check out Dr. Lisa Orbé-Austin’s appearance on The TODAY Show, where she got to chat with hosts Hoda and Jenna about imposter syndrome!

Introduction to Igbo Mythology for Kids

Introduction to Igbo Mythology for Kids is a collection that explores the most popular Igbo myths, folktales, and legends that will immerse kids in exciting stories of tricksters, shapeshifters, and heroes. It’s the perfect book for kids who love Greek mythology or are obsessed with the Rick Riordan series (books and TV show)!

Healing with Copper

Yvelette Stines is a seasoned health and wellness writer, and she has written Healing with Copper, a guide on the benefits and best uses of copper to transform your life! Consumed in the right quantities, these essential metals can boost brain function, alleviate fatigue, strengthen your immune system, and relieve symptoms of various chronic illnesses!

I Own My Magic: Self-Talk for Black Women

i own my magic

It’s important that when you practice self-care, you’re also practicing self-love! G. Michelle Goodloe has written a book of inspiring prompts, meditations, and reflections. I Own My Magic is a celebration of Black female identity that will encourage you to honor your true power and show strength in everything you do.

The Mayonnaise Book

Mayonnaise Cookbook Recipes

Mayo is so much more than just a condiment! In The Mayonnaise Cookbook, Erin Isaac will teach you 50 recipes that feature mayonnaise, including potato salad, chocolate cupcakes, elote street corn, and more. And of course, you will learn how to make your own mayonnaise!

The Magical Girl’s Guide to Life and The Magical Girl’s Self-Care Coloring Book

            

How about self-care with a side of anime? In The Magical Girl’s Guide to Life, Jacque Aye wants you to transform into your most magical self with this one-of-a-kind, manga inspired self-care guide designed to help you discover and harness your inner power! With fun exercises, journal prompts, and personality tests, you’ll quickly learn everything you need to know about your magical girl self, including your magical girl name, what type of power you possess, and what cute companion will perfectly complement your magical girl journey.

And if self-care means taking time to relax your mind, then try out The Magical Girls’ Self-Care Coloring Book! You will still experience self-love and self-esteem benefits just in a very cute and unique coloring book.

The Routine Building Handbook

Believe it or not, you can juggle it all and achieve work/life balance! In The Routine Building Handbook, discover the power of creating, starting, and maintaining daily routines that will help you decrease your stress levels, improve our sleep, and build a productive (and joyful!) life in this practical and easy-to-use guide.

Myths of the Underworld

Myths of the Underworld

Myths of the Underworld is a collection of modern retellings of gods and goddesses of the underworld. In these 10 myths from different cultures around the world, you will learn of forbidden love, acts of vengeance, and naive attractions. You’ll find familiar names, such as Hades and Persephone, but you will also learn about Sedna, the Inuit goddess of the sea and the underworld; Mictlantecuhtli and Mictecacíhuatl, the lovers who ruled the Aztec underworld; and more!

The Devotional for Black Women

Devotional for Black Women

If you are looking to fully embrace your identity in Christ and understand your God-given purpose, you need to check out The Devotional for Black Women. Chelsea La’Nere Brown provides 52 weeks of practical biblical principles and inspiration for building intimacy with God. You will be empowered through weekly devotional wisdom, journaling prompts, biblical affirmations, and more.

2Fish

2Fish

Written by Grammy-nominated singer/songwriter Jhené Aiko Efuru Chilombo, 2Fish is a collection of poems and a few short stories inspired from experiences in her adolescence through adulthood. If you enjoy her lyrics, then you will definitely love reading her poetry.

Japan Travel Tips
February 13, 2024

Japan Travel Tips for First Timer Travelers

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Considering booking your spring vacation to Japan? Do it! Curating her very own Japan travel tips, Winnie Liu, author of Moshi Moshi, is here to guide you through your amazing trip to have the BEST experience.

Using her own experience traveling through Japan, Winnie has become an experienced visitor to Japan and wants everyone else to be one! From eating on a budget to which 7-11 snack is the best, she here to help! Check out her tips:


Eating well on a budget:

A great place to experience delicious local cuisine on a travel-budget is at Japanese supermarkets. The plethora of hot and cold prepared foods make from quick snacks to an entire meal. To save even more money, come snag the dishes in the evenings. Some employees will mark up all the food with discount stickers. So, enjoy those late night outings, just make sure you don’t wait up too long before they run out!


Where are the trash cans??:  

Next to vending machines are one of the few places you can find a recycling bin (and on rare occasions a trash bin) in Japan! Thankfully, vending machines are literally on every corner of major cities. The most common ones are for drinks (which often sell hot AND cold drinks). You can find specialty ones for food, gadgets, accessories, and more! 


Travel ALL across Japan:

The JR Group, one of Japan’s largest private railway companies, offers a cost-effective and handy travel option. Only available to foreign tourists called the JR Rail Pass, the pass comes in 7, 14, and 21 day usages. It’s valid for almost all major forms of transportation in Japan provided by the JR Group, including shinkansen (AKA bullet trains). This pass used to be much more cost-effective; prices unfortunately went up around 60% for all passes in October 2023. It may not be as well-priced as it once was, but if you plan to travel around Japan a lot, it could still work for you! Don’t you just love public transportation!


Cash is king!

In Japan, the big chains and department stores will likely accept major credit cards (Visa and Mastercard, on rare occasions Discover and Amex too). But, cash *is the most* reliable payment method. 7-11 ATMs consistently have one of the best exchange rates for Japanese yen from foreign currencies, and the process is extremely simple. Simply insert your foreign debit card into any 7-11 ATM and select the amount of yen you would like. The only catch is you will not see the exchange rate until the money is pulled from your bank account. At which time, you can see how much USD or whatever currency you own was pulled. But it will always be a better rate than airport kiosks and exchange counters in touristy areas!


Scouting restaurants like a local:

Finding delicious restaurants isn’t difficult in Japan. Chances are, just walking around and strolling into random establishments will net you some delicious meals. But if you like to plan ahead or seek out specific places, there are two tips and tricks that will help you find digs popular with locals.

1) Search for cuisine terms on Google using Japanese characters instead of English (e.g. sushi is 寿司 in Japanese).

2) Use Tabelog, a food review site for native Japanese spots that is similar to Yelp. Any place with a 3.5+ rating is actually pretty good from my experience.

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Moshi Moshi: A Travelogue

Embark on an adorable manga-style illustrated adventure to Japan and its unique neighborhoods, delicious street food, and more in this one-of-a-kind travel guide and memoir. Illustrator Winnie Liu dreamed of exploring Japan since she was a child. In her junior year of college, she received the chance of a lifetime to study abroad there for a

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Psychic Protection
February 12, 2024

Psychic Protection: From The Psychic Shield

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In today’s hectic and uncaring world, it’s important to guard the boundaries of your soul. Psychic Shield: The Personal Handbook of Psychic Protection will teach you all the practical and commonsense strategies necessary to defend yourself against any damaging external forces you may encounter.

Whether you’re a skilled psychic, a budding empath, or simply someone looking for answers, Psychic Shield offers a number of practices, meditations, and rituals to help you protect yourself and your inner peace.

The Ancient Art of Psychic Protection

Psychic protection

What does psychic protection conjure up in your imagination? An entranced shaman whirling to the beat of a drum? An evangelical minister wrestling with the possessed at the alter? Buffy the Vampire Slayer with stake and hammer? Or is it the exorcist struggling to subdue evil with a well-placed Bible and light-bestowing crucifix? Isn’t it interesting that few of the images that come to mind are familiar or from our own time, except those from TV or movies? We have grown unfamiliar with such strange skills that have become mythologized and distant from our own society.

The art of psychic protection is not a new skill. It is a very ancient one found in every time, place and culture. Throughout the history of the world, ordinary people have been careful to observe wise customs and maintain the boundaries between themselves and spiritual harm. These simple, domestic and ordinary skills were known to everyone. And for the more difficult kinds of psychic disturbance, we have always needed people who can stand at the borders between the known and the unknown, to bring spiritual peace to psychic disturbance, to detect the cause of strange happenings, to arbitrate and calm perturbations in the night, to lead unquiet spirits to their rightful place.

How on earth can we learn this ancient skill? Where can we learn and benefit from the strategies? And why should we learn it at all, you may ask? We desperately need these skills in our times because other people and factors are affecting us all the time and we don’t have a clue what to do about them. We don’t even have a trained set of psychic protectors to call upon anymore: they’re not in any directory. This book will not enable you to set up a business as a certified psychic protector, but it does have rituals, practices and strategies that have been used from ancient times and that still work now. You learn them by implementing them.

One thing that most of our images of psychic protectors have in common is their dynamic way of dealing with psychic disturbance. Psychic protectors don’t meekly apologize for existing and cast a bit of holy water about to disperse the problem; they stand firmly in a place of spiritual support and deal with psychic disturbances forthrightly and confidently.

This is why we begin this book by reminding ourselves just how reality and spirit work in this universe, and try to understand why psychic disturbance happens in the first place. Nothing can replicate spiritual confidence, but we can begin by considering our own connection to spiritual sources of help.

The Cause and Effect of Psychic Disturbance

All around us, every day, we see how the short-term, expedient and greedy actions of people are endangering our world from the global and political level down to the local and personal. By failing to understand how our everyday world is but one side of reality, humankind finds the universe a confusing and dangerous place.
Resistance to the Otherworld and to metaphysical reality impedes our understanding of cause and effect. How we deal with the challenges of physical reality must also be the concern of all who want to live more responsibly.

All deeds, thoughts and intentions have effects upon both physical and metaphysical sides of reality. By disregarding these, we cause, and suffer from, psychic disturbance. But how can we measure the unseen effect on our lives? Throughout this book are scattered many stories of people who have encountered psychic disturbance. You will notice that each of these stories has an epicenter from which shock waves ripple out like earthquake tremors, shaking everything in that person’s life with psychic disturbance. This is the result of cause and effect—something we ignore far too often.

The ripples set up from unconsidered cause and effect are what are called psychic disturbance: these ripples hit the soul first, and when the soul is disturbed, we also experience physical symptoms. If you throw a brick at a window, the glass will shatter. The physical results are clearly demonstrable. But what happens when you harbor ill-will, jealousy or resentment against another person? The metaphysical effect is just as demonstrable. How does it manifest? Well, consider those who live on the receiving end of their neighbors’ racist opinions. They will tell you that it makes them feel unsafe, wary, under threat. Such resentment is experienced by the soul as a feeling of threat and by the instinct as a feeling of insecurity.

By becoming impervious to the metaphysical side of reality, we have ceased to relate what subsequently results from our unguarded acts, words and thoughts to its causation. But becoming responsible for what we say, do, think and intend, as well as for the effects they bring, is the first step to bringing peace to our lives. It will prevent us from bringing psychic disturbance to others.

We cannot stop psychic disturbance from happening, but by tracing it back to the moment that the stone fell into the pool and started the ripple-spread that you now experience, you can begin to change things with the help of your Advocates (see page 20). Better still, you can prevent causing it in the first place. Like a chess player who considers the whole board before moving a piece, you can use these questions to help you determine how any of your
plans or actions might affect the universe.

  • From what motivation do my intentions arise?
  • What are the consequences of my intended action?
  • Who or what might it harm?
  • How will these intentions affect me?
  • Are my intentions motivated by someone else’s needs, desires, or coercion?
  • Who am I trying to please/impress by doing this?

See page 265 for some more questions that help determine your effect on the universe.

We all need psychic protection strategies in ordinary everyday life. Adrift from our soul’s core, we tend to cast about ourselves for solutions, often becoming prey to charlatans who are more psychically streetwise than we are. By noticing cause and effect, we grow wiser and more careful and we will harp less upon how sources of good and evil cause psychic disturbance.

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how to heal the vagus nerve naturally
February 6, 2024

Upgrade Your Vagus Nerve: How to Heal the Vagus Nerve Naturally

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Upgrade Your Vagus Nerve

Dr. Navaz Habib is back with new science-backed therapies to help you navigate how to heal the vagus nerve naturally!

In this long-awaited follow-up to his bestseller, Activate Your Vagus NerveDr. Habib explores stressors, measurement techniques, and practical protocols to create a roadmap to help you lead a healthier and happier life.

If you want to learn how to heal the vagus nerve naturally, nutrition is one way to do that. In Upgrade Your Vagus Nerve, you’ll learn common triggering foods to avoid, foods to include, and supplements to consider.

In a sneak peek of the book, let’s go over some of these nutritional strategies that Dr. Habib lays out. And don’t forget to pick up your copy of Upgrade Your Vagus Nerve! You can also check out Dr. Habib’s other books on the vagus nerve: The Vagus Immune Connection and Activate Your Vagus Nerve.

How to Heal Your Vagus Nerve Naturally

 

Nutritional Strategies

A significant and overlooked component of upgrading vagus nerve function is through optimizing nutrition. There are foods that we need to incorporate into our diets to supply raw materials for ACh production, as well as foods to exclude from our diets as they are common triggers to inflammation, acting as biochemical stressors that will alter the microbiome population and trigger hormonal and biochemical stress internally.

Be mindful, be aware, and learn to hear the whispers from your body if something is not working well or if you feel better with certain foods. Most people are unaware that a specific food is a trigger for reactions, so using a food-and-symptom diary is a great idea for 3 to 14 days to help you determine if there is a potential dietary trigger.

Common Triggering Foods to Avoid

In general, the more a food is processed, the higher the calories and the lower the nutrient status of that food. Not to mention that many of these processed foods contain highly processed and inflammatory seed oils. I highly recommend becoming an ingredient list reader when you are choosing what to bring home from the grocery store. Processed meats are another area that we need to be careful of due to the use of nitrates, nitrites, or the curing process.

Foods to Include

The simple answer to the question “What should I eat” is WHOLE foods. This may be too simple an answer for some, but it is the absolute truth of the matter with resounding evidence. The general consensus is that the Mediterranean diet is the healthiest form of diet, which is a great starting point for most of us who are looking to improve our health in some way. From here we should refine and personalize the diet to exactly what works best for us individually.

The highest quality protein options include grass-fed, grass-finished beef; organic chicken or turkey; organic pork; wild-caught low-mercury fish; and hunted game meat—essentially animals raised without the use of hormones, additives, or chemicals, and fed an evolutionarily consistent diet are the best options to support protein intake.


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Venus Retrograde
January 25, 2024

Venus Retrograde: How to Thrive During the Planets in Retrograde

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Every planet except Earth goes into retrograde at some point, and each planet has its own bundle of joys and pain points that come with it. The Retrograde Guidebook aims to take the mystery out of planetary retrogrades, providing an overview of what retrograde means astrologically and its basic principles. It offers a breakdown of every planetary retrograde’s function and effects—and why three main celestial bodies, the Earth, sun, and moon, don’t ever go into retrograde.

The Retrograde Guidebook includes calendars through 2030. Read on below to take an in-depth dive into Venus retrograde and how you can survive in thrive during the planetary retrograde period!

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In ancient Mesopotamia, there was a goddess named Inanna (the Queen of Heaven). She governed love, fertility, and beauty. Her older sister, Ereshkigal, ruled the underworld. When Ereshkigal’s husband died, Inanna descended into the underworld to attend the funeral rites. Ereshkigal was none too pleased about that, though, and forced Inanna to strip down on her way through the underworld’s gates. Eventually, Inanna ended up as a corpse hanging on a wall to rot—not exactly the most sisterly behavior, if you ask me.

Inanna is revived a few days later, thanks to the efforts of her servant Ninshubur. But as with all mythological tales, Inanna couldn’t just go on her merry way. Because she was officially a corpse in the underworld, her spot had to be filled by someone else when she left. When she returned to Heaven, she saw her husband, Dumuzid, happily sitting on his throne instead of mourning her. Enraged, she sent him to take her place. Dumuzid’s sister, though, wasn’t having it and volunteered to go in his place. The gods examined the situation and decided that Dumuzid would be in the underworld half the year, and his sister would be there the other half. That rising and descending resulted in the seasons we have today.

Inanna’s descent is also symbolism for Venus retrograde. Her planet is Venus (goddess of love, right?), and before Venus retrogrades, we can see it on the western horizon. But during the retrograde, it disappears—like when Inanna goes into the underworld.

The Venus retrograde only happens once every year and a half, for about 42 days. The planet rules money, relationships, art, and pleasure.

Vexes of Venus Retrograde

So, let’s get the bad stuff out of the way first. When Venus goes retrograde, you can expect some fluctuations in your love life and money situation—and not always good fluctuations. From a 2 a.m. text from an old flame asking “u up?” to the personal realization of a bad spending habit (Do your crystals really need all those tiny chairs to sit in?), the shifts of Venus retrograde can be pretty emotional and sometimes a little bit judgy. (The answer is yes, Venus. They really do need all those little chairs.)

Mashi Salomon, owner of Light and Lavender, thinks Venus retrograde can possibly be one of the worst to go through. The planet’s connection to relationships and indulgence can resurface any sexual trauma or intense relationship problems someone may have been through. If you’re on a healing path, that can either help or hurt you. Either way, it’s going to be emotional.

Astrologer KJ Atlas agrees that this retrograde period can be particularly difficult.

“Venus, being a personal planet that affects all the things that make life sweet, triggers trepidation when retrograde looms because there seems to be an air of fear around the loss of things important to us,” she says.

Even if you know the Venus retrograde cycle inside and out, and know that removing distractions from your daily life can be useful during that period, it’s still likely to feel uncomfortable. You’ll still feel like garbage, at least a little bit, if you’re going through relationship issues or having financial problems—both of which can easily happen during this particular retrograde period.

But it’s not all bad news, thankfully.

Insight and Clarity

Allemana says that if he had to choose a favorite retrograde, Venus would be the lucky winner.

“It’s a retrograde that encourages solitude, connecting more deeply with your own inner values, and nurturing a relationship with yourself,” he says. “It’s a self-care transit. Venus direct is great, but that retrograde really brings that energy inward.”

With this one, you’ll want to take some time to evaluate yourself. Sit with a journal somewhere outside, in nature, and ask yourself important questions: How am I connecting to myself and taking care of myself ? How am I connecting to the people important to me in my life? Where do our values meet and where do they conflict? Am I properly taking care of all my relationships and any romantic partners?

Once you have the answers to those questions—and any others that may arise in the course of your writing—you’ll be able to spend a bit of time reflecting on what you’re doing that’s working, what isn’t, and how you can improve your life and your relationships in these aspects.

“I would advise taking some time to yourself,” Allemana says. “If you have the opportunity to spend some time in nature or do some meditation or spiritual ritual where you’re connecting deeply inward, that would be ideal.”

You may want to take the time when you get home to go through your budget and bank statements, as well, just to take stock of your spending habits and how those can also improve.

The main point here is to investigate your relationships, values, finances, and self-care methods and figure out how to be and do better. That being said, Venus retrograde and all this introspection can be tough for some people, particularly those who don’t like to be alone or have trouble going inward and reevaluating their values. It can be an uncomfortable and frustrating addition to all the struggles they might be having already because of the retrograde.

And even if you love being alone and enjoy introspection, conflicts and relationship challenges can still pop up to say hello during Venus retrograde. It happens to everyone. No one is immune, especially because relationships, well, tend to involve more than one person. And that other person has their own free will to do whatever they want without thinking about how you’re trying to handle Venus retrograde.

That could mean that someone you cared for in some way comes back into your life, and you start to feel the same way about them that you once did. And with Venus retrograde, it’s likely it was a person or a feeling that you got lost in, that knocked you off your center. But that doesn’t necessarily mean you need to do anything about it.

“Anytime something returns, it’s not necessarily because we haven’t dealt with it,” Wilkinson says. “Sometimes we did deal with it and now we just get to take a look at it in our rearview mirror so that we can see that was then and this is now, and now I know why that had to come down the way it did.”

You should also pay extra attention to when Venus and the sun are conjunct near the middle of Venus retrograde. At that time, there’s usually some sort of insight or clarity about exactly what that specific retrograde period means for you. And if you’re taking the time to meditate on the retrograde itself, that could be easy for you to discover.

Ritual for Venus Retrograde

In this ritual, you’ll be honing in on Venus retrograde’s relationships focus. It’s broken into three sections: the first for encouraging self-love, the second for boosting trust and confidence in coupledom, and the third for protecting yourself from messy exes who come wandering back this time of year.

Letters for Self-Love, Current Love, and Past Love

You’ll Need:

3 pieces of paper

1 black candle

1 black tourmaline

1 red candle

1 rose quartz

1 white candle

1 blue chalcedony

1 writing utensil of your choice

3 envelopes

Rose petals

A fireproof container

A lighter or matches

Directions:

1. Lay your three pieces of paper in a row on a desk or a table with a chair. You’ll be writing on these pages.

2. Above the paper on the left, put the black candle and black tourmaline. These symbolize your past relationships.

3. Above the paper in the middle, put the red candle and rose quartz. These symbolize your relationship with yourself.

4. Above the paper on the right, put the white candle and blue chalcedony. These symbolize your current or future relationship.

5. Light the candle on the left. On the paper, write a letter to someone you were in a past relationship with and don’t have interest in anymore. Explain what you liked about them, why things didn’t work out, and why it’s better if you’re apart. Let them know that you will not entertain ideas of rekindling the relationship.

6. Light the candle on the right. On the paper, write a letter to your current partner or to the partner you wish to have. Explain why you two are good together, list the positive aspects of your relationship, and state that you will stay together as long as it’s right for you to do so.

7. Light the middle candle. On this paper, write a love letter to yourself. Write what you think is great about you and why. Explore every sense of yourself here, saying something positive about every aspect.

8. Fold the letters and place them into separate envelopes. Lay
them on the table and scatter rose petals on top of them.

9. Take a deep breath, close your eyes, and repeat this incantation: “I am my beloved and my beloved is me. Guard my love in the form it should be.” Picture energy flowing from you into the envelopes as you speak. With every repetition, imagine the envelopes glowing brighter. Finish repeating the incantation when you feel satisfied with the energy level.

10. Take all three envelopes outside and burn them in a fireproof container. Release the ashes into the wind.

Retrograde Review: Venus

  • Frequency of retrograde: Every 18 months
  • Retrograde tendencies:
    • Positive: A self-care transit that allows you to work on your relationship with yourself, evaluate past relationships, and examine money issues to see what you can change
    • Negative: May prompt problems with love life and money or a resurgence of emotional trauma
  • This retrograde transit will probably be uncomfortable in at least some way. Give yourself some grace. Sit alone out in nature and think about how you can better your relationships with yourself, others, and your finances. And definitely don’t respond to the long-ago ex that reaches back out during this time!
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January 24, 2024

Pocket Hotties: Harry Styles’ Advice

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Pocket Hotties: Harry Styles

Ah, Harry Styles: musician, actor, childhood (and current) crush, and lifestyle guru? Introducing Pocket Hotties: Harry Styles, filled with tons of quotes on fashion advice, relationships, and music. This newest title will have you so in-touch with Harry and who he is. Harry Styles, Fine Line, and (Grammy winning Album of the Year) Harry’s House all hold unforgettable (whether painful or ear-catching) lyrics and melodies, but Harry has other memorable quotes out there.

So, are you in a sticky situation? Instead of clicking play on Matilda or Sign of the Times, check out some of Harry Styles’s golden advice to get you through it.


Unsure on wearing that top you bought because you wanted to try something out of your comfort zone? Remember…

“I think if you get something that you feel amazing in, it’s like a superhero outfit. Clothes are there to have fun with and experiment with and play with.”

If he can wear that pilgrim outfit for the ‘Fine Line’ photoshoot (if you know you know) …I can wear a color that’s not black.


Spiraling because you can’t believe Love on Tour is over after 3 years. Me too…

“Between the two [fans and friends] I’m incredibly lucky to have an environment where I feel comfortable being myself.”

….feathers, cherries, heart glasses, and glitter everywhere. Ah, to be there again.


Do you know who you are? Remember…

“Be a lover. Choose love. Give love.”

Sobbed during ‘Love of My Life.’


Are you binging One Direction music videos? X-Factor performances? Thinking about all the tabs you had open to break the Vevo record when ‘Best Song Ever’ premiered….

“I love the band, and would never rule out anything in the future. The band changed my life, gave me everything.”

…just patiently waiting for the day they reunite.


Trying to figure out what Kiwi is actually about? Harry’s the same person that tweeted..

“Eating toast in the shower is the ultimate multitask.”

….not so sure we’ll ever figure that out.


and don’t forget Harry’s ultimate saying…

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Pocket Hotties: Harry Styles

The perfect gift book for Harry Styles fans, One Direction fans, or anyone who loves pop music, movies, and fashion! A collection of all the best quotes from superstar and Grammy award winner Harry Styles, this book will cover his thoughts on relationships, life, fashion and style, success, music, and himself. Uplifting and quirky, this

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Pocket Hotties: Pedro Pascal

The perfect gift book for Pedro Pascal fans, fans of The Mandalorian, The Last of Us, and Narcos, and anyone who loves pop culture, movies, and celebrities! A collection of all the best quotes from beloved actor and internet daddy José Pedro Balmaceda Pascal, this book will cover his thoughts on relationships, life, acting, success,

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Fruit Board
January 22, 2024

I Love Trader Joe’s Cookbook: Fruit Board Recipe

  • Recipes

The I Love Trader Joe's Snack Board's Cookbook Cover Introducing the newest addition to our I Love Trader Joe’s book series…*drum roll please*… The I Love Trader Joe’s Snack Boards Cookbook! This has to be one of the tastiest and prettiest books we’ve ever released! Filled with assembly tips, quick recipes, and visually stunning photographs, this is bound to be your charcuterie and snack board life-saver!

In this newest addition, find yourself immersed in charcuterie, snack board recipes perfect for this upcoming Valentine’s Day and year-round party platters. While you anxiously wait for your copy to arrive, check out this sneak-peek recipe on how to make the perfect Fruit Board.

 

Fruit Board— from The I Love Trader Joe’s Snack Boards Cookbook

 

Enjoy this fruit board as breakfast, an afternoon snack, or a healthy dessert. Of course, you can mix and match the fruit according to what looks good at your Trader Joe’s and purchase whole fruit (such as watermelon) instead of packages. The Greek yogurt makes a lovely dip or can be drizzled over fruit on individual serving plates.

Serves: 4 to 6 | Prep Time: 10 minutes

Ingredients:

1 (6-ounce) container Trader Joe’s Greek Nonfat Plain Yogurt
1 lemon, zest and juice
1 tablespoon Trader Joe’s 100% Pure Maple Syrup or honey
1 (6-ounce) container raspberries
1 bunch green grapes
1 (16-ounce) container strawberries
1 (6-ounce) container blackberries
2 oranges, unpeeled, sliced in rounds
4 fresh mint sprigs or citrus leaves

Directions:

1. In a small bowl, combine the yogurt with the zest and 1 teaspoon juice from the lemon, along with the maple syrup or honey. Place on your serving board or platter.

2. Arrange the fruit on the board, alternating colors and textures. Garnish with the fresh mint or citrus leaves.

3. Serve at once, or cover loosely with plastic wrap and refrigerate for up to 4 hours

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Create stunning boards, creative charcuterie, and delicious spreads for every occasion with 50 recipes featuring your favorite Trader Joe's® products. If you’re an avid Trader Joe’s® shopper or you can’t stop making every meal into a charcuterie board, this is the perfect cookbook for you! With The I

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devotional for black women
January 16, 2024

Devotional for Black Women: Book Sample

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  • Self-Help

Strengthening your relationship with God is easier said than done. It can feel intimidating and overwhelming — where do you even start? Get ready to put aside any obstacles, doubt, fear, and negative self-talk because Chelsea La’Nere Brown has created a year-long (and undated!) Christian devotional designed to empower Black women to walk confidently in their faith.

Devotional for Black Women includes 52 weeks of practical biblical principles and inspiration for building intimacy with God so that you can fully embrace your identity in Christ and understand your God-given purpose. There are weekly devotional wisdom, journaling prompts, biblical affirmations, and more! Overcome those barriers and let go of what was holding you back from making faith an intricate part of your lifestyle!

Let’s take a look at one of the weeks called “Multipurpose Queen,” and don’t forget to pick up a copy of Brown’s Devotional for Black Women!


Devotional for Black Women

Multipurpose Queen

Scripture

To everything there is a season, a time for every purpose under heaven.
Ecclesiastes 3:1 (NKJV)

Devotional

When we think of our life’s purpose, we may believe it means a single mission. However, we have several purposes to which God may call us throughout our lifetime.

We all play different roles and have multiple titles that may require various talents, skills, and versions of ourselves. Therefore, we serve several purposes.

Our purpose can change depending upon the season of life we are in or the situations we encounter. We may serve a different purpose in motherhood than we do in our career. We may be called to serve two different purposes in two different ministries at church. Our purpose in our twenties may change, grow, and expand in our thirties.

Furthermore, our purpose consists of more than grand achievements. It also includes the small gestures of kindness and love that we extend to others. Every smile, every word of encouragement, every act of compassion that is orchestrated by God can have a profound impact on someone’s life.

Every time we help someone in need, we’re fulfilling a purpose. Every time we make someone laugh, we’re fulfilling a purpose. Every time we do something kind for no other reason than to show someone love, we’re fulfilling a purpose. By embracing both the big and small moments of life, we can discover a sense of purpose that transcends our individual accomplishments and connects us to something greater than ourselves.

Reflection

Each day we rise with breath in our lungs and blood running through our veins, we have a purpose to fulfill. For anyone who may be dealing with feelings of purposelessness or is on a journey to discover their purpose, remember to not discount the small, everyday purposes God assigns you.

At the end of each day this week, spend 5 to 10 minutes writing down how God used you that day. Think of how you helped someone, made someone smile, or shared the love of Christ via your words or actions. Whether small or grand, may we never underestimate our power to make a difference in the Kingdom.

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Strengthen your relationship with God with this year-long Christian devotional designed to empower Black women to walk confidently in their faith. Get ready to put aside any obstacles, doubt, fear, and negative self-talk, and say “Hello!” to what makes you magical in God’s eyes. The Devotional for Black Women provides 52 weeks of

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December 19, 2023

Celebrate 2023: The Year’s Top People and Books They Would Love

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Congratulations! We all made it through 2023. Before you grab a drink, start the countdown, watch the ball drop in Times Square, and sing “Auld Lang Syne” to ring in the new year, let’s revisit some of 2023’s best moments in pop culture. Sure, TIME put out their “most influential” lists that featured people who had an incredible year. But those lists didn’t provide the answers we needed: What would our faves want to read after having the year that they did? Don’t worry; we’ve got it covered!

Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce

In 2023 we could not escape T-Swift. What else can this woman succeed at? It seems like the limit does not exist. She’s the most Googled songwriter, the Eras Tour and the movie broke all records, and she is TIME’s Person of the Year. Oh, and she’s one-half of the It Couple of 2023. In their downtime from being a pop star and a professional football player, they should have cute at-home date nights, like cooking together! If they need any recipes, they should check out The I Love Trader Joe’s Cooking for Two Cookbook!

The I Love Trader Joe's Cooking For Two Cookbook

Barbie

At the end of Barbie, we got to see our Stereotypical Barbie enter the real world and start a new life. To help her continue on the journey of finding and accepting herself, flaws and all, she should explore the life-changing magic of self-love! In The Self-Love Workbook, she can use the exercises and the step-by-step guides to transform herself, her relationships, and the way she sees the world.

The Self-Love Workbook

Oppenheimer

It used to be that Barbie and Ken were a pair. But not anymore! Now, you can’t even think about Barbie without immediately thinking about Oppenheimer. After being the face of the atomic bomb and a 3-hour historical film, it might be nice for Oppie to relax and read How Pi Can Save Your Life. He’ll learn how to survive random and ridiculous scenarios through the power of math equations!

How Pi Can Save Your Life

Beyoncé

Look, it’s hard being as talented and as hardworking as Beyoncé. You don’t need to see the Renaissance tour or watch the movie to know that! Unfortunately, being the best is tough and draining (as is the Everybody on Mute challenge!). When she gets a chance, Beyoncé should check out I Own My Magic, which has inspiring prompts, meditations, and reflections just for Black women. She can practice self-love, embrace mindfulness, and build a positive daily ritual of positive self-talk.

i own my magic

Willy Wonka

No, you didn’t imagine it. Timothée Chalamat is trying to make us all have a crush on young Wonka! As a new chocolatier, he should know that chocolate in any form is absolutely delicious. And to test this theory out, he should bake his way through 50 Things to Bake Before You Die. With some help from the Oompa Loompas, he can bake everything from Chocolate Croissant Bread Pudding with Fresh Chantilly Cream to Chocolate Cheesecake Mochi Muffins.

50 Things to Bake Before You Die

King Charles

It’s now God Save the King! Does anybody even really know what King Charles does? Or what any of the royal family members do? Either way, it must be difficult to remember all the protocols, procedures, and history baked into that family. Maybe he needs a refresher course? He should check out Royal Trivia in between his secret binge-watching sessions of The Crown.

Wednesday Addams

Don’t be shy, you can admit that you tried to learn the dance from Wednesday. We all tried! The Netflix show became a huge hit that nobody could escape from. Wednesday Addams taught us that being obsessed with the macabre is okay. If she can do it and look that cute in her all-black outfits, then so can we. If she wants a break from the outside world and all those annoying people who don’t get her, then she can wind down with the Wednesday Word Search, The Unofficial Wednesday Cookbook, and the Wednesday coloring book.

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Joel and Ellie from The Last of Us

Every Sunday, we tuned in to see if Joel and Ellie would survive the clickers. There’s no such thing as relaxation in an apocalyptic world like that, but hey. Maybe they can scrounge up a crayon or two and practice some self-care with The Last of Us Unofficial Coloring Book. Or, you know, they could brush up on their survival skills by reading Prepper’s Long-Term Survival Guide. There are no chapters on zombies, but there’s still some useful information in there!

Halle Bailey

After doing the impossible of exceeding expectations for the new The Little Mermaid movie, Halle Bailey deserves a night off from being Ariel. It can’t be easy being a Disney princess. Halle can get creative and work her way through The Magical Girl’s Self-Care Coloring BookIt’s a unique coloring book that is designed to help you feel empowered, to boost your self-esteem, and to guide you on your self-care journey.

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And that’s a wrap for 2023!

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